The Victim of Emotional Abuse

by Jessica Cervantez

"It is so important to know that tomorrow, the sun is going to rise, and you are going to welcome it, and you are going to say 'Thank you God for this day,' and I don't dread mornings."

Carla Wiechman and her children escaped the emotional abuse from her husband of seven years.

Wiechman said, "I thought we were going to have the perfect life, and I noticed very quickly that everything was disappearing cars, furniture, food, and I realized I was paying all the bills."

 Her husband's addiction to gambling is what caused Carla Wiechman's marriage to fail.

"You don't want to break up your marriage,you want to fix it," she said.

So, she tried, they moved from Dallas, to Colorado, to Oklahoma.  Even with her husband making a $100-thousand a year, they had no money. Everything had been gambled or pawned away. No furniture in the house, no food... nothing.

"We had nothing, I boiled water so the boys could have a bath, I washed my clothes in the bathtub, I can make anything you want out of beans," Wiechman said.

Carla's husband blamed her for not having money. The abuse Carla suffered was not physical, but emotional.

She said, "What he says, you start believe it.  It's your fault, you don't work hard enough, you don't work enough hours, it got to the point that you had to have approval for anything."

It was her mother-in-law that helped Carla and her kids get out of the situation. The children were happy to start a new life.

Margie Preston, with the Women's Shelter of East Texas, said, "The effects on the children don't get talked about much, the emotional scars that stay with the children."

September 24th will mark two years since Carla and her kids started their new journey, without her husband... a journey that has only made the family stronger.